| No. |
Communication |
Manipulation |
1 |
Expressing your needs without assuming other's have to meet those needs |
Expressing your needs with the belief that others "should" meet those needs |
| 2 |
Not focused on the "outcome" but that the process is healthy + safe for all parties involved |
Focused only on the "outcome" and neglects to factor how unhealthy the interaction is for all parties |
| 3 |
Seeks to benefit all people involved and accounts for everyone's comfort levels |
Is self-serving and doesn't account for the comfort levels of other people |
| 4 |
Honors different values and how each person communicates + processes information |
Doesn't honor other's processing time and is based only on one person's values/goals |
| 5 |
Allows room for everyone to feel heard + validated (even when it's hard or uncomfortable to hear) |
Shames or shuts down those with differing views and avoids information that is hard to hear |
