| No. |
This |
Not This |
1 |
Learning & re-learning each other |
Tolerating repeated disrespect |
| 2 |
Actively pursuing each other's inner worlds and asking more questions |
Ongoing cycles of fighting, breaking up and getting back together |
| 3 |
Having vulnerable conversations |
Constant criticism and trying to control |
| 4 |
Learning to manage your triggers |
Expectations of meeting their needs without being told what they are |
| 5 |
Trying harder to find middle ground |
Getting "over it" when you've been hurt |
| 6 |
Choosing to be patient and have grace |
Going days without talking or engaging |
| 7 |
Finding ways to be safe during conflict |
Feeling mostly discontent or unhappy |
| 8 |
Taking the steps to repair after conflict |
Having your needs repeatedly ignored |
| 9 |
Learning to give and receive help |
Boundaries frequently violated |
| 10 |
Understanding that your partner's needs are valid too |
Constantly walking on eggshells |
