| No. |
Boundaries |
Demands |
1 |
A clear limit set based on our own needs |
A command for how someone should behave |
| 2 |
Stated clearly + objectively when emotionally regulated |
Made during nervous system activation, defensive |
| 3 |
"I understand your beliefs + am no longer going to discuss this" |
"If you bring this up on more time, you'll wish you hadn't" |
| 4 |
Allows person to have their own response while holding limit |
Attempts to control, manipulate or dictate outcome |
| 5 |
Stays in alignment with personal values + integrity |
Acts out, feels shame, resentment + disconnection |
