Unhealthy Love And Healthy Love

No. Unhealthy Love Healthy Love 1 Needing others to feel secure and happy Allows for individuality 2 Extremely afraid to let go Accepts endings 3 Excessive fear of risk or change Experiences openness to change 4 Little individual growth Invites growth in the partner 5 Few truly intimate experiences Experiences true intimacy 6 Trying to get something by giving Finds pleasure in giving and receiving 7 Trying to change people Does not try to change partner 8 Playing mind games Does not try to control partner 9 Cares with excessive detachment Does not seek unconditional love 10 Looking to others for self-worth Has individual high self-esteem 11 Feelings consumed in the relationship Expresses feelings spontaneously 12 Being afraid of affection and closeness Welcomes affection and closeness 13 Frequent playing of "power games" Believes in equality

No. Unhealthy Love Healthy Love 1 Intense : You feel overwhelmed by their feelings and behaviours Comfortable : The relationship's pace works for both of you 2 Isolating : They keep you away from your friends and family Independent : You love spending time together, but still have space 3 Possessive : Their jealousy is angry; they often accuse you of cheating Trusting : They have confidence in you and the relationship 4 Belittling : They say things to make you feel bad about yourself Kind : You provide comfort and support to each other 5 Volatile : They're unpredictable and make you scared or confused Respectful : You work out your conflicts in a healthy way