| No. | Things you can control | Things you can't control | 
    1 | How you speak to yourself | What they say about you | 
    | 2 | Who has access to you | Whether they like you | 
    | 3 | How you react | Every detail in the future | 
    | 4 | How much you rest | Your energy level | 
    | 5 | Whether you ask for help | Whether you receive help | 
    | 6 | How you refill your cup and prioritize your needs | How much life 'throws at' you and your loved ones | 
    | 7 | Whether you set and enforce boundaries | How they react to your boundaries | 
    | 8 | What you say 'yes' to or agree to do | Whether they will try to change your mind |